Friendships after Gavin..

Relationships After Baby: Fading Friendships?
When you become a mom, your priorities change—which means sometimes friendships change, too. Know when to hold on, and when to let go.
Remember the line in the old camp song, "Make new friends, but keep the old"? A fine sentiment, but both can be tricky when you're a new mom. If you sign up for baby classes, visit the library for story time, or just hang around the playground, you're likely to connect with some other moms who share your (totally normal!) need to discuss diaper duty and sleep strategies.
But prebaby friendships can hit a rocky patch during this transition time in your life — and that's perfectly natural, for lots of reasons. Your interests have changed (did we mention diapers?), and the time and energy you once had for socializing is now usually reserved for your baby — or your bed, so you can catch up on your sleep. If you've left your job or put it on hold, you're now removed (both physically and emotionally) from your circle of work buddies. Also, and most unsettling, some of your unmarried or childless friends may be uncomfortable around you now that you're one of the mommy set. They may feel that you just have less in common, or they could be envious of your new situation. Sadly, some of those friendships may not survive the arrival of your baby.
To preserve the ones that will, make sure to let your friends know that you are still (mostly) the same person you used to be, and that you still care about more than just baby stuff. Make time for them on a regular basis (even if that's just once a month) for lunch or a drink (without baby in tow). At first, stick to familiar topics — the shared interests that brought you together. You needn't make mention of the baby off-limits; good friends will always want to know how your little one is and about your new life. Just don't let baby talk monopolize the conversation.
If, despite your best efforts, a friend still seems distant (or worse, views your baby and your new life with distaste), let the relationship lapse before you get any more frustrated with your former pal's disinterest. Don't write off every baby-wary buddy, though. You'll likely find that friendships that seemed strained after your baby arrived will renew when those women (or men) have their own kids. -------------

I just receieved this email and wow, it's so true! Although many of my friends seem interested in Gavin's goo's and gaah's and if he's walking/talking/singing, anything... others could quite possibly care less. I've had to learn, and quickly, that not everyone shares the same love for my child. And it is very hard to keep that balance. And since I'm one of the few with children at my age, finding things to talk about other than my family can be hard since I'm a "stay-at-homer" now. But, they are still my friends and I love them-even if they don't share that same love for my one and only.